The Story That Serves Your Future

After 22 years in a psychologically abusive marriage, Kristen Crabtree did the thing most people only talk about — she left. Not with a plan, not with a strategy, not with clarity. On her bathroom floor in the middle of a panic attack, with the bear behind her finally scarier than the abyss in front of her. In this episode she walks Jeanne through what it actually took to rebuild — and why she calls the work self-recovery, not self-help.

Kristen is a Certified Divorce Coach, the creator of the Paramour Paradox self-recovery framework, and the author of Be the You That’s More You Than You’ve Ever Been. She talks about emotional sobriety as breaking an addiction to your own chemistry, monkey mind as the chatter that runs every conversation we have with ourselves, and the moment she realized that the story she was telling about her past wasn’t serving her future. There’s a confetti story you won’t forget. There’s a Roomba.

And then there’s Two Truths and a Lie — where one of Kristen’s three headlines turns out to involve the FBI, the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals, and a case that’s now taught in law school. The lie is somewhere else entirely.